I agree wholeheartedly! This makes me think about the shein debate that took place on tik tok a few months ago. People came up with so many excuses for why they had no choice but to shop from shein, instead of just simply admitting that they don’t care enough about exploitation or the environment. Once we accept we’re wrong or flawed we can work on improving but alas people can’t get over that first hurdle 😭
this is so brilliantly written, I'm always impressed by how concise yet extremely intentional your writing is!! I struggle with whether our reluctance to take personal accountability is derived from the age of online, and public reactions vs private conversations, or whether its a wider sociological problem of a lot of us not having the emotional skills to deal with being in the wrong, being incorrect, accepting criticism, etc?
or maybe I'm doing exactly what you argue against in your post, and turning the personal into the systemic haha
(the book conflict is not abuse by Sarah schulman comes to mind - I've not read it yet but I've heard it touches on this topic!)
Thank you! I always think I’m very longwinded actually but glad to hear you’re not reading it this way😂
I think the problem of not being able to take person accountability has always existed, but turning the personal into systemic is definitely a new iteration of this. A very annoying and shallow iteration at that!
I agree wholeheartedly! This makes me think about the shein debate that took place on tik tok a few months ago. People came up with so many excuses for why they had no choice but to shop from shein, instead of just simply admitting that they don’t care enough about exploitation or the environment. Once we accept we’re wrong or flawed we can work on improving but alas people can’t get over that first hurdle 😭
Yes exactly this. We cannot be coddled through objectively bad decisions. Sometimes we are at fault and that’s okay to recognise
this is so brilliantly written, I'm always impressed by how concise yet extremely intentional your writing is!! I struggle with whether our reluctance to take personal accountability is derived from the age of online, and public reactions vs private conversations, or whether its a wider sociological problem of a lot of us not having the emotional skills to deal with being in the wrong, being incorrect, accepting criticism, etc?
or maybe I'm doing exactly what you argue against in your post, and turning the personal into the systemic haha
(the book conflict is not abuse by Sarah schulman comes to mind - I've not read it yet but I've heard it touches on this topic!)
Thank you! I always think I’m very longwinded actually but glad to hear you’re not reading it this way😂
I think the problem of not being able to take person accountability has always existed, but turning the personal into systemic is definitely a new iteration of this. A very annoying and shallow iteration at that!